In Jewish tradition, there is a concept: “The poverty of your city takes precedence.” It’s a principle in the laws of charity, emphasizing that one should prioritize helping those closest to them before aiding those farther away. But this principle leaves me questioning: who are the “poor” of my city? Are they the people of my country? My nation? The starving and freezing babies in Gaza? Their caregivers? The hostages? Or perhaps they are the people and animals I pass every day on my street? Or maybe it’s those closest to me—myself, my family, and my friends? It’s overwhelming to grapple with these questions, but perhaps they are a starting point for understanding how we can best show up for others while also taking care of ourselves.

 

Knowing this community, I know how deeply we all care for others. But perhaps now, more than ever, it’s worth reflecting on how we can also care for ourselves and support our closest circles. Sometimes, tending to our own well-being isn’t selfish—it’s necessary to sustain the strength and resilience needed to help others.

I don’t have all the answers. But I invite you to reflect on these questions, too. Who needs your help most? What small actions can you take today to make a difference? And, first and foremost, how can you heal yourself?